These two words are the common words for people from Asia, particularly Cambodia and Vietnam. They mean similarly almost the same but refer to different things. In the straight meaning, temple is explained as a building devoted to worship of god while pagoda means a Hindu or Buddhist temple, typically in the form of many tier temple. In a clear context of Cambodia, temples are pretty much referred to any worshipped places for ancestors, gods and kings but is more likely addressed as heritage buildings; for example, Angkor Wat Temple or Bayon Temple.
Meanwhile, pagoda simply refers a place where the Buddhist monks stay or live in and also where people can pray for their ancestors. You can also find it almost anywhere throughout the country. Ounalorm and Monhamoney Pagodas are ones of the popular pagodas based in capital of Phnom Penh.
In contrast, since I came to Australia, I was so surprised how people address pagoda as temple. It’s hard for me to clearly distinguish between these two word as it’s used differently. Unlike Asia, there are more churches than temple or pagoda. Asian temples in Australia are pretty much praying and community places for each culture, but not in the way I would address as heritage buildings like Angkor Wat at all. In my opinion, I am not sure if other Asian temples in Australia calling praying building as temple, but whenever you are talking to Australians, either born or raised in Australia, they understand temple as pagoda. I have also tried surfing Internet, the term ‘Temple’ is common in Australia, in opposition to Cambodia, where the term ‘Pagoda’ is popular. In that sense, WHEN YOU ARE IN AUSTRALIA, DO AS THE AUSTRALIANS DO, and WHEN YOU ARE IN CAMBODIA, JUST DO AS CAMBODIANS DO. By doing that, you won’t get wrong!
I know 2020 has really reaalllyyy a tough year for everyone. Some people lost their jobs, loved ones and businesses have crawled so hardly. It’s not the year that we want to face – the most depressing year ever!!!! I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s been through this – losing my dad during pandemic (not because of Corona virus) , unable to attend his funeral or giving him a hug for final goodbye, and getting stuck in the longest lockdown state ever.
Thankfully we are allowed to be out for new year celebration safely though it’s not like a normal festive one. At least I am able to travel local away from quiet city to take deep breaths with fresh air with nature. Now we all are looking for better and nicer things ahead. I wish you all the best – better dream and plans, being nicer to yourself and others and all positive things happen to you!
I get this common question a lot from those who have never done laser. Though some clients may have experienced doing waxing before, they are still kind of getting nervous about getting laser done. And of course, some clients are getting sweat before the treatment starts. Well, to some clients, the word ‘laser’ itself sounds serious, doesn’t it?. You might think of Laser cutter, laser machine used by doctors and specialists. That’s also how I felt when I first started my treatment. You are nervous! You don’t know whether you do it or tolerate the pain! But trust me! It’s not serious or too bad as you think it would be! Let’s say most people are doing it and all you want is to see the better result.
All I can express the pain in words to my clients is you are gonna feel like a rubber band flicking on your skin (just with the heat) or it can be expressed as insect-bite pain. In addition to that, the pain can vary from one person to another depending on their pain tolerance and areas of sensitivity. According to Healthline, underarms are one of the most sensitive areas when receiving treatment. It doesn’t have to be left or right as people may feel it differently. In the Teenvogue website, each area has been described by rating number which is quite predictable for first-time clients.
It’s also hard to expect from the first treatment what the pain is like as the hair is in fully grown stage. The pain can gradually decrease from time to time as the hairs grow less or patchy, plus you know what to expect after the first treatment. To those who have a very pain tolerance, if the first few treatments won’t help you much, you can take Panadol a few hours before treatment. However, avoid using numb cream because it restricts and slows the skin response to the laser which is hard for therapist to predict the good endpoints from the skin. Moreover, there are also extra conditions that simply give more sensitivity to the skin when doing laser such as: having hormonal period, body temperature, taking certain medication and individual’s pain tolerance level.
I hope this will help to open up an idea to those who consider doing laser for their first time.
I’ve been talking a lot about skin beauty, so now let’s have a talk about hair! It’s been quite popular lately about hair extensions and wigs. Have you ever known about hair extensions (or wigs) and thought of trying it before? If so, how well do you know about hair extensions origin?
To be honest, I’ve never tried hair extension or wig either. However, hair health is all I want to know about as my hair is not quite healthy and find it hard to grow long. I’ve been thinking of having hair extension and doing some research about it. The new terms I learnt about this are Raw Hair and Virgin hair. If you happen to look for hair extension, you should know the quality of that to keep it as your own hair. According to Klaiyihair, the Raw hair refers to the best quality of pure unprocessed hair from the same donor, which hasn’t been chemically processed by steam or chemical treatments. The cuticle of the hair is aligned and comes in 3 textures: straight, wavy and curly. On the other hand, Virgin hair is chemically unprocessed hair which comes from a single donor. It is steamed to achieve different textures of hair styles: Peruvian hair (coarser, thicker and durable), Malaysian hair (heavier, softer, silkier), Brazilian hair (light, shiny, silky), Indian hair (easy to style and elastic), and much more.
You can find any hair extensions or wigs from any where, pretty much in Asia, but Dellahhair recommends the best Cambodian raw hair for its best bone straight hair. Unlike other hairs, Cambodian hair texture is unique for its smoothness, straightness, and untangle hair; especially it suits and blends so well in almost all hair types. It’s also known for holding curls very well in humid weather.
It’s good to worth a try and see which textures and hair types suit your preferences and please let me know how it works for you!
It’s quite a popular but controversial topic of having a nice pair of breast (with breast implants) and decision to breastfeed after birth. A number of women with cosmetic surgery, including breast augmentation, is sought after in USA, Brazil and China. In Australia in 2017, it was approximately 20,000 women underwent the breast augmentation.
Can women with breast implants be able to breastfeed? Yes, they can as the surgery won’t affect the ducts or the areas where the milk produces, including the nipples and areola. It’s pretty much placed behind milk glands or chest muscles. It can be possible depending on some factors such as the type of implant, the placement of implant and the way surgery was done.
What would happen to breastfeed when a mother has breast implant? Though there is no proven evidence of side effects but some possible risks may happen:
Possibility of maintenance in either corrections or removal
Change in breast and nipples sensation
Rupture of implant
Capsular contracture, which occurs when scar tissues forms around the implants causing squeezing
Does the milk supply from those with breast implants the same as that from those with natural breast? No, it may limit and compress milk supply.
Is it dangerous to breastfeed with breast implants? There is no enough evidence proving about side effects of breastfeed while having breast implant. All we know is that silicone devices in the body can potentially trigger inflammation and health issues.
What if breast implant leak into breast milk? There are two types of implants – saline and silicones. If saline leaks into breast milk, it won’t affect mother or baby. However, if silicones leaks into break milk, they are dangerous as it’s made from plastic.
If you have breast implants and consider breastfeeding, please consult your doctor or expert, you may be eligible to do so by having proper baby latching, breastfeeding often, and empty breast regularly.
Believe me or not? My now husband was so surprised when I talked about blood test before marriage, and he responded ‘What a weirdest thing I have come up with’. Having blood test before marriage has never been a law or custom for Cambodia at all. However, this norm started in 1991 since HIV first detected in Cambodia. A different story was told when I was young that it started when UNTAC stepped into Cambodia. It was an economic boom conditions resulting from the stability following Paris Accords 1991.
HIV/AIDS in Cambodia: HIV and AIDS are easily confusing as they always go together. To make it clear, HIV is virus and AIDS is a condition. While Cambodia is known as the country with highest infection rate of HIV/AIDS in Asia with an estimation of 20,000 of AIDS death and 180,000 of HIV infection. It increased steadily from 1991 to 1998 by 2 percent. The main causes to this epidemic are the low income society experience rapid growth and the particular sexual behaviour patterns. Though the HIV/AIDS rate continue decreasing until recent (with preventions and education) but the number in data tend to remain high.
Family is considered as foundation. We Khmer value so much on family, and we strongly attach to our extended family members, closed neighbours and friends. Each person commonly has certain lifelong expections including roles and responsibilities toward family. ‘REAP BEFORE YOU SOW’ also known in Khmer as ‘TVER SRAE OY MERL SMAO, TOK DAK KON CHAO OY MERL PAO SANDAN’ is commonly popular proverb that is quite practical among elderly people to cautiously look into their children’s future partners in order to avoid any disappointments in relationship. The elders will look at their children’s partner’s behaviour, responsibilities, and family history.
The blood test is not only done to check just HIV/AIDS but also Tuberculosis (TB) or Hep. A and B. After children’s partners are thoroughly pass all elders’ criteria, they will be asked to do blood testing. Therefore, since 1991 onward, negative blood test result means you are passing the final stage of proposal and ready to get marriage approval.
Until today, the blood test may be optional to some families. Therefore, don’t be surprised in case you propose to one of any Khmer ladies and will be asked to do blood test. I don’t think now people will strictly adhere this sort of norm anymore, and hopefully Covid won’t make a new norm to marriage approval.
Contraception shouldn’t be a topic for only married women talk about, it should be for everyone including girl teens. If contraception isn’t included in curriculum, it should be a topic within mother-daughter or father-son conversation as a part of life knowledge. In Cambodia, there might be no sex education due to the strict tradition toward virginity value and value of women’s rules, but in school curriculum, the reproductive health has been added in. As sex education can now publicly and secretly travel faster in any ways than contraception education, to my view, all teens, especially girl teens should be taught to familiarise of this. Yes, it may sound awkward and uncomfortable to parents, but the accurate information of this type of topic can lead to reduction of unhealthy relationship, unwanted sex from sexual assaults, unplanned pregnancy or getting STIs (Sexually Transmissible Infection). Every contraception does have its pros and cons, but it’s better planned ahead than regret. There is a wide range of contraceptions to choose from and to suit their bodies and lifestyles, but the most popular modern contraceptive methods in Cambodia are pills and injection. In this post, I’m gonna show you briefly the pros and cons of available contraceptions in Cambodia, and hopefully these reaches to teenagers, both in urban and rural areas to familiarise about it. Don’t get me wrong, it is not that I’m encouraging teens for sex, but it’s encouraging knowledge for teens’ protection and decision, just in case they may be facing sexual assaults or accidentally involving in secret sex which end up being young parents or having abortion.
They are the only most common methods of birth control and prevention of STIs (Sexually Transmissible Infection). They are available in both male and female versions. Female condoms may be not only as effective as the male ones but it’s also taking time to practice and getting used to them.
Where it is applied: female condoms are internally inserted inside the vagina while male ones are externally insert on top of the penis.
Where to find: it’s over-the-counter at pharmacies and supermarkets, or healthcare NGO like Marie Stopes.
Duration: it’s only safe if everytime the condom use doesn’t have any leakage or it’s been used correctly.
Pros: it’s hormone free, easy to use on demand and carry with you anytime. The best thing about it is prevention of STIs.
Cons: it can be easily torn off if not used properly. It contains Latex which is the ingredient some people may be allergic to.
Oral contraceptive pills
Where it is applied: it’s a tablet taking each day and everyday.
Where to find: generally it’s prescribed but In Cambodia, you can buy without prescription at pharmacies, or for safety, it’s good to consult with healthcare experts – Marie Stopes or any women health clinics.
Duration: it’s only effective if you take it regularly.
Pros: it’s highly effective if used correctly. It won’t only interrupt sex, but it may also reduce heavy period pain and give positive effects on hormonal acne.
Cons: if you forget to take it, you still have more chances to get pregnant. These pills are not suitable for those who can’t take oestrogen-containing contraception.
The contraceptive injection
Where it is applied: it commonly injects on the upper arms by trained healthcare providers.
Duration: it lasts between 3 to 10 years depending on the type (either progesterone hormone or plastic and copper)
Pros: the copper ones are 99% effective and the hormone ones are 99.8% effective, which are also long-lasting contraceptions. The good thing about it is it can be used as an emergency contraception within 5 days (120 hours) of unprotected sex.
Cons: it can lead to irregular bleeding or spotting for the first six months of use. It’s only safe to be done by trained healthcare provider for insertion and removal.
Birth control patch
Where it is applied: you can apply on buttocks, upper outer arms, lower abdomen or upper body, except breast areas or where it will be rubbed.
Duration: 1 new patch lasts 7 days (a week) and if 3 patches are used consistently and change weekly, the users can skip on 4th week without having pregnancy.
Pros: it’s a good option for young grown-up girls (teens).
Cons: it’s not suitable for women who are over 35 years-old, smokers, weighed over 198 pounds, or those who prone to blood clots, have had breast or uterus cancer, or take drugs for epilepsy. Not all women have problems, but you may experience nausea, headaches, rashes, tender breasts, mood changes and menstrual cramps.
It’s the last choice for both men and women who consider to end their pregnant chances permanently.
Where to find: you can access Marie Stopes for process and procedure consultation and treatment.
Pros: it is highly effective without affecting sex, hormone free, and lasts forever.
Cons: consider throughly before going to this surgery as you can’t change your mind.
If you think girls are better at multitasking than boys, then you are wrong. No one is good at multitasking.
Don’t just say I can’t find it: do the search, just like you search for thieves or rivals in the games.
Don’t complain that girls is like FBI: that’s because you train her at home by frequent saying ‘I can’t find it’ or it may be because she surprisingly feels weird if you acts suspicious or different.
Don’t complain that girls are talking too much if you know HOW to always put things back to exactly where they were and the origins they were in. Just make sure you put all the ingredients you pull out back to its spots after cooking, put dirty clothes in the right basket after wearing, or even put the dirty dishes right in the sink after eating. How simple and easy is that!
Don’t complain girls are taking too much time prepping before going out: if you want to have beautiful girl walking next to or accompanying you. Boys wouldn’t want messy ones, either, so just let her know the time to set off; that’s it.
Don’t complain why your wife is not now wearing makeup after having kids: if you only wake up and dress yourself up alone, you are not helpful enough to share responsibilities as husband and treating her good enough as a princess like before.
Don’t say I’m a man (just because you can’t just find or do things in the house), if you don’t wanna hear her annoyingly non-stop talking (because she is a woman).
Don’t say girls don’t do anything at home: if you don’t help cooking or cleaning the house. At least they don’t charge you for household chores including looking after kids.
Be honest with her from the start! Don’t say you love her if you are secretly or publicly intending or having someone else. If you are dating a new one, clear your relationship or marriage contract first before starting another one.
Don’t say educated girls are looking down on low or uneducated boys. That’s not true if you are capable and responsible for her or family.
Don’t say your wife has changed, even her body shape after having kid. Keep in mind that you are the reason.
Face tapping is so popular in Japan and South Korea for deep penetration of product applications. I do learn that it’s a gentler technique to the skin, and our skin will benefit more from any products we apply on. Face tapping is also known as face patting or slapping. Generally, face tapping or patting is considered to be pretty much the same thing, but I personally find that face patting is slower and gentler (for example, when you are face patting to dry after washing or shower) while face slapping is quicker and stronger (and even painful – used in facial massage), but face tapping is just in between these two. With this technique, you don’t need lots of amount of products – just small amounts and tap over gently.
Facial massage: Face tapping originated from Asia around 1320 as facial massage, known as anma in Japan or sen in Thailand (known as face slapping). However, face slapping isn’t as crazy as it sounds. It helps stimulate blood flow, aid cell rejuvenation through collagen production, helps with lymphatic drainage and toning muscles to firm the skin.
Product absorption: there is no specific data saying about how it bring absorption to the skin, as the products will sink into the skin, no matter what way you apply to. Anyhow, face tapping is a technique which uses less force so it’s more likely to have less inflicts with the skin and used as facial massage in conjunction with other products, rather than just massage oils.
Fighting wrinkles: It minimizes the chances of pulling or dragging on the skin, which results in less damage in skin structure. At the same time, it’s also believed to ease stress and promote better sleep.
What products to be tapped?
You can do face tapping with products like toners, serums, moisturisers, sunscreen and even makeup.
Serums and moisturisers: these are lightweight products so you just massage your face by tapping the products into the skin without dragging your skin. Around the eye areas, you simply need one ring finger to tap along and around the eye socket bones as the skin is more delicate than any other areas.
Sunscreen: most of sunscreen consistency are thick and greasy. If you apply too much products on the skin and rub it hard to push for absorptions, it’s time consuming and force using. Of course, the skin might look slightly red by the time it blends in. It’s actually best to just a small amount of sunscreen and tap it all over your face.
Foundation, concealer, and powder: these products may result in caky makeup if you rub or drag the products too much. Like sunscreen, that’s due to the thick and sticky consistency of foundation and concealer. It’s best to go with sponge tapping to achieve glowing blend-in skin, but sponge will absorb more products and require frequent cleaning, using brush will also help to do this job.
ការតប់មុខគឺមានភាពពេញនិយមនៅជប៉ុន និង កូរ៉េខាងត្បូងសម្រាប់ការជ្រាបចូលជ្រៅនៃការលាបផលិតផល។ ខ្ញុំយល់ឃើញថាវាជាវិធីមួយដែលថ្នមដល់ស្បែក ហើយ ស្បែកយើងនឹងទាញយកប្រយោជន៍ជាច្រើនពីផលិតផលនានាដែលយើងលាប។ ការតប់មុខ ក៏ត្រូវបានគេស្គាល់ថា face patting រឺ face slapping. ជាទូទៅ face tapping និង face patting ត្រូវបានគេស្គាល់ថាជារឿងតែមួយដូចគ្នា តែសម្រាប់ខ្លួនខ្ញុំផ្ទាល់ face patting មានលក្ខណៈយឺតជាង ហើយប្រើសម្ពាធរឺកំលាំងតិចជាង face tapping (ឧទាហរណ៍ពេលជូតមុខអោយស្ងួត បន្ទាប់ពីមុខទឹក) នៅពេលដែល face slapping មានលក្ខណៈលឿនជាង ហើយប្រើកំលាំងធ្ងន់ជាង (ហើយពេលខ្លះក៏ឈឺដែរ – ដែលគេច្រើនប្រើក្នុងការម៉ាស្សាមុខ) តែ face tapping គឺស្ថិតនៅចន្លោះកណ្តាលប្រភេទទាំងពីរនេះ។ ដោយប្រើវិធីនេះ អ្នកមិនចាំបាច់ប្រើផលិតផលច្រើនទេ ដាក់តែបន្តិចហើយតប់ថ្នមៗ។
It’s not surprising for women to put on impressive dresses or clothes showing off beautiful curve of body with outstanding expectations. To achieve the dream look, some of them prefer putting hip boosters (or hip support panties) to boost confidence and extra attention. Thus, how often and common women use it? For Khmer women, hip boosters are used quite frequent, especially in traditional costumes. You might wonder when they wear all these costumes. Ranking as first country with most holidays, (28 public holidays) in a year, you can imagine how busy we are (of course, with holidays) and how often we need to wear traditional costumes to represent the country and sometimes require traditional dancers to open up each of big events. Well, that’s not even including traditional events like weddings, as well as other religion- and tradition-related ceremonies (Bon Pa Chai Boun, Bon Pka Samaki, Bon Pers Sda Pram Pi Chob, etc.). Those who are invited to all of these events are traditionally required to wear traditional costumes. I myself have experienced all of these and it was no surprise for me to have hip boosters worn in my wedding though I didn’t want to. Having had this experience, I’m starting to question myself and eager to know what are behind this popular hip boosters, and it seems to make sense to me for 3 reasons.
Apsaras as the first models
Khmer Apsaras are described as beautiful female beings who came down to the Earth from heaven to give entertaining, blessing and enchanting dances to both kings and gods. They are also described as beauties to entrap mortals with nice curl of flexible hands in slow-paced and differently unique moves of fingers, which offer audiences mesmerising moments. The best thing I can narrate about Apsara is their nice hourglass body shapes – tiny waist with wider hips, dressing in elegant silk costumes, embellished in stunning jewelries, comprised of headdresses, precious earrings, necklaces, bracelets and anklets.
If you look at Apsaras in Angkor era, they have the same body shapes, except their dress features and dance movements. The two of Khmer women Devatas (Apsaras) – South and North Devatas of Sikhoraphm (now based in Thailand) are estimated with waist-hip ratio around .57 and .59 accordingly. These measurements of Apsara shows the perfect size of women and are considered this low waist-hip ratio as attractive women.
With Khmer Angkor historical events passed on for generations, we have now conserved those dances with the same imitation of dance costumes and movements. However, not all the modern Apsara dancers now would have their elegant body shapes with small waist and wide hips. To make this exact same body shape, hip boosters (or hip support panties) are commonly worn underneath the skirt to add on extra curves. Of course, these boosters really gain extra attention from audiences and extend the meanings of how beautiful Apsara dancers in Angkor Era would be. Because of these reasons, I notice that these boosters have now popularly been used in Apsara costumes and other types of traditional costumes.
Most attractive parts of all times
Naturally and scientifically speaking, women’s body shapes are created more curvy than men’s ones, and women’s body shapes are classified into 7 categories: triangle (pear), rectangles (straight or banana), diamond, inverted triangle (apple), oval (round), athletic and hourglass. Among all, the hourglass shape – perfect shape with the curves of small waist and wider hips – is proven to be attractive to men, as the research finds men are reliable signal of physical and sexual maturity in young women’. In addition to this, Khmer saying states that ‘those who have wide hips are fertile in child bearing’. It has both direct and indirect meanings. The direct meaning simply refers to women’s fertility and easy giving birth while indirect one refers to sex. Yet I don’t think hip boosters are related to direct meaning of childbearing (perception), instead they seems to involve more in indirect meaning which attraction can lead to have sex.
Just be once a princess in a lifetime
As mentioned above, having wider hips are attractive at all times and Apsara is the representation for the beautiful look in traditional costumes. Thus, you will see hip boosters (and even boob boosters) worn in wedding costumes for the whole process. They are like must-use boosters, which you will be strongly convinced to wear. If you ask those who have recently got married about hip boosters, I’m sure all of them would answer ‘Yes, they’ve worn them’. I’m also positive to the idea saying ‘who doesn’t want to be the most attractive princess on her day?’. I would love to! It’s the best day to make a remarkable relationship status change and officially announce the relationship to family, friends and others you know. Cambodian wedding is about details of each spiritual or ancestor dedication, education and representations of stages turning into couples, which requires 3 days or now approximately 2 days in short. The bride-to-be will go through experiences of wearing regular-changing costumes (pumped up with both boobs and hip boosters) with jewelry alteration sets to match them, especially lots of photos and videos taken to mark this absolutely auspicious days. The incredible photos and videos of impressive body shape in modernised traditional costumes with stunning makeup will also help promote wedding planners to attract more future brides to hire their services.
Therefore, if you happen to visit Cambodia or might know someone who get married in Khmer traditions, don’t be surprised with all these.